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Parenting: Feeling Bored IS Okay

2016 May 11

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‘Mommy, what can I do now? I’m bored!’

‘What else can I do now? Give me something to do.’

(In the car) ‘What can I do now? I have nothing to do.’

Sounds familiar?

Here’s one undeniable fact we see today:

Kids these days get bored easily. They crave programmed activities and continual entertainment.

And I think, one of the major causes is, the presence of technology / gadgets that readily go everywhere with them.

(Perhaps I should rephrase it to: the presence of technology / gadgets that are given to the children so that they are kept occupied / stimulated, wherever they are)

The way I see things:

– Our world is full of ‘trends’ and they’ll keep on changing over time.

– Whether or not we ‘follow the latest trend’ is a decision we need to make for ourselves.

– It is up to the parents who’ll create their own ‘family culture and habits’ from the start (and explain to the children the values attached to the decisions as they grow up)
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[February 2015]

One of the latest trend we see today is: ‘Everyone has a gadget, regardless of their age.’

Children naturally compare themselves with their friends and they will ask (continuously) for a gadget to land on their hands.

It’s a fact all parents face today.

But I guess, the more important questions are:

If you’re a parent, what is YOUR belief and why do you have that belief? What culture / habits that you’ll introduce to your own little family from day one?

Food for thought.

To be ‘under-stimulated’ is uncomfortable. But really, this ‘discomfort’ is exactly what they need today

As for our family, we choose to not saturate our kids with ‘electronic media entertainment’ as there are soooo many other activities to explore and do, so many other ways to spend their time and day.

Which includes ‘doing nothing much at all’.

If asked about ‘children and their longing to be continually entertained’, I’d say:

It is OKAY to feel bored.

It is OKAY to not have any ‘media entertainment’ for a period of time.

It is OKAY to have ‘nothing to do’ in the car.
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[No games on gadgets for Brie so far means she craves none and enjoys interactions with family and friends]


Because, when our children are ‘allowed to be bored’ (read: having no media entertainment nor structured/programmed activities), they are faced with opportunities to :

– Think – on their own – of ways to keep themselves busy
– Exercise their creativity and imagination
– Be calm and self-reflect
– Problem-solve their situations
– Interact with siblings and real people

Children today are heavily stimulated little people.

To be ‘under-stimulated’ is mildly unpleasant and uncomfortable. They’ll most likely complain about it.

But really, this ‘discomfort’ is exactly what they really need today.

What say you?

Blog: www.oureverydaythings.com

Parenting : Being a Daddy is Hard Work

2016 February 15
by oureverydaythings

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How big is a Daddy’s role and involvement in his children’s lives?

The answer is: HUGE!

 

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Daddy may not be around as much as he would due to work commitments, but when he IS around his children, what he does and says, matters.

A lot.

– Does he physically cuddle and hug his children?

– Does he do what he preaches?

– Does he keep his promises?

– Does the words that he utter reflect love, positivity and respect towards others and self?

– Does he help out with house chores and other ‘family duties’?

– Does he show interest in his children’s lives? (Eg. Listens to their stories and the happenings in their lives, however ‘plain’ they may sound, or asks them about stuff OTHER THAN their school grades and homework)

– Does he show emotional stability?

– Does he love and respect his wife and talk to her lovingly?

– Does he pray and grow spiritually?

The list goes on and on.

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Being a Dad today is hard.

So is being a Mom.

(None of us is super nor perfect. Far from it.)

And you know what, I feel it is even harder today to be a ‘husband and wife TEAM’ that continually builds on the love and respect for each other, while they struggle together in raising and educating their children to stand firm on what’s right, true and good, amidst the ‘strong currents’ in today’s world (that teach infidelity, greed, selfishness, cruelty and hatred are normal and okay).

 

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Parenting is hard.

But it is not impossible.

Why not we encourage one another and strive to do the best that we can, for our family’s sake?

Food for thought.

May God have mercy on our family, and may God help us all.

Blog: http://www.oureverydaythings.com

 

What Kind of ‘Break’ Do Our Children Get?

2015 July 20
by oureverydaythings

 

Came across an interesting quote the other day:

“One thing I know for sure about raising children is that every single day a kid needs discipline…. But also every single day a kid needs a break.”
– Anne Lamott

Interesting quote, I thought.

And I agree with it.

For some reasons though, the quote reminded me of what someone shared with me quite a while back.

She told me about a 10-year-old boy who – during the school holiday – would IMMEDIATELY play games on his iPad upon waking up in the morning. He’d play for like, TWO hours in one go.

He’d do this nearly everyday, throughout the school holiday.

Question: Did his parents know and allow it to happen?

Answer : Yes, and it’s because :

– When he’s told to stop, he didn’t stop playing. And so the parents stopped repeating themselves.

– “It’s holiday lah, it’s okay!’

Since it’s the school holiday, the parents felt it’s okay for him to do what he wanted to do. Especially since the boy wouldn’t be able to wake up late and play games that long when school started.

As I always say, parents have their own ways of running their family.

And, parents are free to do whatever they feel is best for their children.

Having said that though, if I was asked whether I’d let the above situation happen to OUR children, the answer would be a clear no.

No, I wouldn’t let our children play any iPad / computer / mobile phone games upon waking up in the morning.

Regardless of whether it’s the school holiday or the weekends.

And, especially NOT for 2 hours, in one go or not.

 


[Exploring nature and being out in the open is one kind of activity that our family likes to encourage in our children]

 

My reasons?

Here are some of my personal reasons:

– I am not against the whole idea of ‘playing games on gadgets’ itself, BUT if what a child desires the most upon waking up in the morning (read: what he feels would make him happiest when he wakes up, what occupies his mind and makes him happy first thing in the morning, what he thinks about when he first opens his eyes) is to play games on gadgets, then to me, that is a HUGE problem.

It is a huge problem because :

– The act of playing games on gadget then has truly become the ‘idol’ in his life, ie. Playing games is what makes him happiest!
Is a child’s ‘happiness’ placed on his/her access to playing games?
This is something I wouldn’t want to happen to our kids.

> This means, he’s allowed (by his parents) to focus his time and energy only upon himself.
(He’s indirectly trained to place emphasis on self and self-interest, and not other people’s)

 


[Cycling together at Ocean EcoPark, Ancol – a nice way of spending family time together]

 

> This means, he’s allowed to ignore interactions with fellow members of the family upon seeing them in the morning.
(The first sentences he’d say in the morning would probably be, ‘Where’s the iPad?’ instead of greeting parents / siblings with a ‘good morning….’?)

> This means he’d been ‘made to lose’ his ability to find other means of activities that could entertain and occupy his holiday time, … activities that would give more and better variety to his life.
(If playing games on gadgets is what makes him happiest, usually he’ll find it hard to enjoy doing something else, like reading, playing music, drawing, socialising and playing with other friends his age, interacting with siblings, helping around the house, etc)

[/pulledquote]> This means, he’s indirectly trained to ‘ignore’ his responsibilities (read: not being taught on the importance of ‘knowing and doing our priorities’)
To me, playing games on gadgets is never a child’s right.
It’s just one of the things that our kids can do when all other ‘more important’ things have been done.
Eg. Upon waking up in the morning, don’t ask for games if you haven’t even had your breakfast, shower, brush your teeth, practice piano, etc.

 


[Two older kids prepared dinner all on their own – a nice practice of what teamwork means, and a way to instill responsibility and enjoyment of being a hands-on and helpful member of the family]

 

– If allowed on a regular basis (though it’s done ‘only‘ during the school holiday), I feel as the parent, I’m allowed my child to be ‘addicted’, ie. The child would ‘expect’ his parents to allow him to do what he wants, … otherwise he’d throw his tantrums!
(‘What else can I do at home?? I feel bored! I don’t know what else to do!!!‘)

– Deliberately ignoring the parents when they ask him to do something is a big no-no for us.
Of course this does NOT mean a child is a total robot with zero possibilities of expressing his thoughts or requests.

The problem is on the act of ‘purposely not responding’ because the child is so engrossed with the games in his hands.
To me personally, it is fine if you really like doing something, BUT … liking / loving something should never make us disrespectful / ignorant towards others, what more our parents.

 


[We feel it is a necessity to encourage the ability and willingness in our kids to find different ways of entertaining themselves]

Actually I could still go on and on, but I guess I’ll stop here for now.

The food for thought that I’d like to share is this:

Yes, children need ‘a break’, but there’s a bigger question that follows : what kind of ‘break’ do we parents ‘give’ to them?

Will the kind of ‘break’ we allow lead to worse behaviours, addiction, compromise / ignorance of responsibilities and appreciation towards others, etc?

Parenting is such a complex task, isn’t it?

Training and raising our children with a ‘healthy balance of everything’ often seems such exhausting and even ‘impossible’.

Ah.

May God give us the wisdom to know how we should raise our children, and the perseverance and consistency to walk our talk and be living examples for our children.

May God help us all.

Why ‘Jurassic World’ the Movie is Not (Yet) for Our Kids

2015 July 15
by oureverydaythings

 

We’ve spotted many dinosaurs this school holiday!

Not just in Singapore, but also in Jakarta.

Well, I guess, the ‘dino’ theme naturally coincides with the release of ‘Jurassic World’ the movie?

 

 

Now.

About ‘Jurassic World’ the movie, here’s one question I get from a few friends : Have you and your kids watch the movie yet?

Well, while I know of many families who bring their little ones to watch it in cinemas, we choose to NOT bring our kids to watch it in a cinema.

 

 

Errr … why not, some may wonder.

Here’re some of our reasons:

– The movie was obviously made to evoke a sense of suspense. The background music, sound effects, cinematography (well, everything) are meant to give the audience that super intense feeling from being chased by huge dinosaurs, etc.

I mean, if the movie had not made you feel scared nor ‘at the edge of your seat’, then the movie would’ve been considered as … a ‘failed project’, no?

Now back to the question:

would I let my three children sit in a dark studio, in front of a super large screen, and experience this kind of overwhelming intensity?

The answer is a clear ‘No thank you’.

(Would I let my two older kids watch the movie in a cinema? The answer is still no. Not yet.)

 

 

– Having said that though, we will wait for the DVD and let the children watch it at home, together with us.

Why wait for the DVD?

Because we can then watch it on a much smaller screen (ie. Less impactful), and most importantly, we have the option of lowering the volume during scary scenes, or even skipping some scenes altogether.

(We’d watch the movie first, as this way, we’d know which scenes are better skipped / ‘censored’)

 

 

– The movie rating is 13+.

I’m sure there’s a good reason why it’s deemed not ‘suitable’ for children below 13yo (which btw are the ages of my three kids)

So there you go.

That’s our stand on whether our kids would watch ‘Jurassic World’ the movie in cinemas or not.

ie. Not all movies are suitable for children.

And ultimately, it’s the parents who need to decide on what’s necessary and good for the children.

Anyway.

As I often say to the kids, we won’t miss much from not watching a movie or two.

(It’s hard to find must-not-miss, suitable-for-kids movies, those with truly great stories, these days!)

What say you?

Water Play Photos @ Waterbom PIK, Jakarta

2015 March 10

Managed to spend a good 5 hours at Waterbom PIK the other day!

And it was greatttt! So good to be in the outdoors! =)

I guess we all needed that good break from our everyday routines!

We got there at about 2pm, and it drizzled a bit.

But soon after, it was all good.

Cloudy, but good.

(Click HERE to watch the video and read my earlier post on Waterbom PIK)

 

 

A friend said that Waterbom PIK is more for teenagers. Bigger kids and adults.

It’s true in a way, because other than the safer yet fun slides for the younger kids, there are quite a few ‘adventurous’ rides here, which require you to climb lots and LOTS of stairs! =)

 

 

Having said that though, Anya and Vai (11yo and 8.5yo) really love the thrill of going down the tall slides.

(Actually, me too, haha!)

So.

Here we’re again, our second time! =)

 

 

How about our 3.5yo girl then?

What did she do? Did she go down the crazy rides too? Did she get to enjoy the slides as well?

 

 

Hehe. Yep she did have fun together with us!

Other than floating across the ‘lazy river’ on a yellow tube, she did go down (countless times) the ‘meant-for-younger kids-slide’, alone.

And, of course, she went down the other slides, including some ‘scarier’ ones, together with us too!

(Naturally, she didn’t go on ALL the ‘super scary’ slides lah. Not allowed too, anyway =)

 

 

Anyway.

Here are some quick tips and info to share:

1. Go on a weekday, if you can. Less crowd, shorter queue!

But, on weekdays, some rides are closed at certain hours. Check their website for the details!

2. Grab their promotional deals!

Check their website for promotions!

We got an awesome deal, btw!

All 5 of us went, and we only paid for one adult ticket and one child ticket! (Because there’s a promo of ‘Pay for 1 and get 3 tickets!)

3. Bring along your underwater camera, if you have it! =)

Have fun!!

 

Relocating to Jakarta, and Coping with the Change!

2015 March 3
by oureverydaythings

‘It’s okay. Jakarta is okay too. You’ll do fine living there.’

Out of nowhere, a friend who lived in Singapore said that to us to ‘cheer us up’ after seeing how we faced the big flood last month, and deal with daily traffic jams here.

The thing is, yes we live in Jakarta, and we have to face all that, … but, no, we didn’t feel ‘trapped’, ‘disadvantaged’, ‘wanting to leave’, or anything.

I mean, we ARE doing fine here.

Now. I know of many who have relocated to Jakarta or who are still thinking of relocating to this busy city.

And many do wonder about us, our family and HOW we’re coping with everything.

Well, by this month, we have officially been in Jakarta for THREE years.

And, yes … we are doing fine =)

[THIS was what I wrote back in 2012 about our big move to Jakarta, and THIS was how it felt on the day we left Singapore for good]

Here are three common questions we get from others when they ask about us living in Jakarta :

How can you cope with everything?

Are the kids doing alright?

Do you miss Singapore?

And here are our thoughts on them:


How can you cope with everything?

Well, every country has its pros and cons. There is no ‘perfect’ place to live (gotta wait till we’re all in heaven one day! =)

To Wilson and I, we believe we can always choose how we wish to move forward.

We can choose to feel thankful for what we’ve been blessed with, and live with whatever inconveniences we happen to face daily, without complaining about them incessantly.

Or, we can focus on the many ‘negative’ things about Jakarta and live unhappily everyday.

Right now, we believe God wants us to be in Jakarta and that He has a purpose and a calling for us, so we are of course fine with it.

If one day, perhaps years from today, we are to move and relocate again elsewhere, then we’ll just see how things go =)

Wherever we are, as long as we stick together as a family, and as long as that’s where God wants us to be, that’s what matters most to us.

It’s all in the mind and heart, I guess.


Are the kids doing alright?

We believe young kids will naturally follow their parents and learn from their ‘adaptability’ in the new country.

If BOTH parents are fine with the move, stable, settle down steadily, and help the children in adapting with the new environment … I truly believe the children will do fine too.


[A good stroll along Orchard Road]

Do you miss Singapore?

Of course I do miss loads of things about Singapore.

The convenience of public transportation, the cleanliness and orderliness of everything, the wonderful libraries, the many free play areas for kids, the many fun public events organised, etc! =)

(Including its coffee- shop’s Teh-Peng, sugar cane, Char Kway Teow, Katong Laksa and boneless chicken rice!)


[East Coast Park]

Anya and Vai still have loads of memories of their growing up years spent in Singapore too.

But, having said that, this is what we do and what we’ve also shared with the kids :

Yes, we treasure our memories, but if we are now in Jakarta, instead of always looking at what we had in the past and NOT have today, let’s value what we now have, especially things that are NOT available in Singapore.

Things like:

– We can now enjoy more seafood, dessert and authentic Indonesian cakes, etc (because food naturally is more affordable here)

– We get to see our big family more often (Back in Singapore, the kids hardly spend time with their grandparents and relative, because we fly to Jakarta only 1-2x a year)

– We can travel and explore the mountains and beaches more during holidays without leaving the country

– The kids can now have piano and tennis lessons!


– We have a part time helper coming three times a week!

– They can attend a good Christian school, that focuses on the integration of their christian faith into everything that we learn in life, instead of just focusing on academic achievements

– We are exposed to more opportunities to serve God and be involved in the ministry

– We get to see more smiling people who happily tolerate and welcome the existence of playful children and families in the society

– We can now see Daddy everyday!
(He was a ‘weekend Daddy’ in the last one year of our stay in Singapore)

Okay, I’ll stop here.

The list can go on and on.

There are lots of things that we now can enjoy, which we didn’t have before.

And we choose to focus on this, instead of what we don’t have.

We choose to learn and count our blessings everyday.

And this, I must say, helps a lot when we first relocated to Jakarta three years ago.

Did you go through a big move with your family?

How did you cope? Any tips to share?

Making : Chinese New Year Crafts (Hong Bao Fish & Fire Crackers)

2015 February 26

 

Since it is not yet 15 days after Chinese New Year, here are more Chinese New Year craft ideas to share with you! =)

We made these Hong Bao fish and fire crackers.

(We’re seriously recycling our used hong baos! =)

Another set of simple Chinese New Year craft ideas for the kids!

 

 

To make the fish, we did this:

– I drew the fish shape (not to forget the ‘inside area’ of the fish that will be covered by Hong Bao pieces)

– I cut out rectangular shapes out of used hong baos

– Brie smeared UHU glue stick and stuck the pieces

– Don’t forget the fish eye! =)

And …. THAT’S IT!

 

 

 

To make the fire crackers, we did this:

– I cut an A4-sized red carton into 4 pieces

– Brie stuck Hong Bao pieces onto them

– I covered the sticky surface with scotch tape (the large one), rolled it into a tube, and taped the ends

– Used a wool yarn as the string

 

 

Btw, we made plain ones too.

We rolled the red carton and stuck orange-coloured origami strips on both ends! =)

 

 

And there they are! =)

Nothing fancy from shops.

Instead, all were hand-made, and the kids OWNED them!

The satisfaction is better, I reckon =)

 

Making : Hong Bao Lanterns

2015 February 18

 

This Chinese New Year, we are back to crafting with the kids!!

Chinese New Year theme, of course! =)

We’ve made quite a bit to decorate our door, and I’ll post those photos soon! =)

For now, here are some shots of Brie when she made her hong bao lanterns!

 

 

What we did:

1. I cut out a few A5-sized red cartons

2. Using old hong bao packets from previous years, I cut out triangular shapes

(Why triangles? Just to make Brie familiar with the shape and the name. You can always cut them in whatever shapes you wish =)

3. Brie smeared UHU stick on the red carton, and randomly pasted the hong bao triangles

 

 

4. Once she said, ‘I’m done!’, I used a wide scotch tape and ‘covered’ the surface of the carton. This is just to cover the ‘sticky surface’ (and to make the lanterns last longer =)

5. I folded the carton into two

 

 

6. I cut out its ‘folded’ side, but NOT all the way (leaving about 1 cm ‘uncut’)

7. I opened up the cut out carton, and rolled it up into a ‘tube’ (lengthwise), taped the ends with scotch tape

 

 

8. I cut out a 1-cm strip, and taped the ends into the inside of the ‘tube’

And VOILA!

Your homemade hong bao lantern is done!!

 

 

And oh, the kids were super excited when we did this at night!

We used small birthday candles, stuck them on a bottle cap, and carefully placed them inside the lanterns.

Then we switched off all lights.

Oh the glow … the kids loved it!

 

 

Brie especially just sat there looking at the lanterns.

Yep, the lanterns SHE made with her siblings!

If you haven’t tried making these before, do give it a try!

Simple and fast!

Plus, it’s always a good thing when the kids see their artwork nicely displayed and adored! =)

Happy Chinese New Year, everyone!

How our 3 Kids and I Survived the Flood, the Rain, and Walked Back Home!

2015 February 10
by oureverydaythings

 

Flood. Dear flood.

What seemed to happen in Jakarta ‘every 5 years’ has somehow become an ‘annual disaster’.

We arrived in Jakarta in March 2012 and since then, we’ve witnessed Jakarta going through this flood problem, once a year.

(And no, I’m NOT blaming the governor for ‘weather issues’.)

Anyway.

I thought I must blog and share this ‘only-in-Jakarta’ UNIQUE experience the kids and I went through yesterday.

Yep, the day we TRULY experienced Jakarta’s big flood!

Well, here goes.

It all started with rain. Heavy downpour, starting around midnight. Nonstop!

And to cut the story short, we decided to NOT send the kids to school due to the rapidly rising flood water (though they’re already in the car with us, in school uniforms and all).

We went to drop hubby off to work, and we went back home.

Errrr … that’s when the problem started.

On our way home, we apparently entered ‘an impossible to go further’ zone!

 

 

I suddenly found myself in a situation where our car couldn’t move further.

It’s pouring rain outside.

I looked out my window, and saw flood water covering the lower parts of ALL other cars!

I started to hear ‘engine noises’ coming from OUR car!

And to make things worse, … the 3 kids screamed, ‘Mommy! Water is coming into the car!!’

EEEEKSSS!

It was such a scary moment!

Thank God, seconds later I heard Anya pointing out to an office complex nearby, saying, “Mommy! Look! We should go there!”

Seriously, THANK GOD, we somehow managed to make a quick turn (amidst the traffic jam!) and entered a slightly higher ground!

Phew!

At least our car was no longer IMMERSED!

 

 

Heavy rain didn’t stop.

And I thought, we just had to leave our parked car and get out of there before the flood got worse.

Then you know what?

We spotted a big truck!

I did some crazy waves, yells (across the heavy rain!) and hand signs, and phew, the driver understood that we asked if we could get a lift!

All four of us (drenched) hopped on to the back of the truck.

Just as long as we could get a little closer to home, I thought.

 

Then, you know what?

In less than 2 minutes, we were told to get off!

Why?

Because the driver told us, they’re NOT going out of the complex because the water level was TOO HIGH.

Other trucks couldn’t make it through the floods, he said.

Like, seriously?? Trucks couldn’t even make it through the floods?

Errrr … then I saw this sight across the road (picture below).

Great. Just great.

 

We waited around again … for another 10 minutes or so.

Heavy rain. Nonstop.

Then I decided to just go ahead.

I told the kids to get ready to walk through the floods. Since there’s NOTHING we could do, we’re going home!

The kids were like,

‘How about our shoes?’

‘How about our car?’

‘How about our school bags?’

Well, since we’re in a state of ’emergency’, I told them to NOT worry about those things.

Wet school shoes should be the LAST things that we worry about.

What happened next was, I carried Brie with one hand and held an umbrella with my other hand.

Anya and Vai walked on their own. Each holding an umbrella.

We slowly walked forward.

Trying to feel the ground.

Avoiding holes and whatever big stones and curbs.

 

 

It was mad, I know.

Many looked at us, waving and gesturing from afar, asking if we wanted to go onto the side of the road and wait.

But then I thought, ‘Wait by the road side? No, I better stay towards the middle of the road, closer to the curbs (pictured above), so that JUST IN CASE there’s a truck, a horse carriage, a boat, or ANYTHING that passes by, we could hop onto it!’

What a crazy mother of three. Probably that thought crossed their minds. I don’t know.

I just wanted to go home.

So we walked ahead.

 

 

We did see 2 horse carriages, a boat, 2 trucks (filled with people at the back) passed by.

But they were all ‘FULLY BOOKED’.

I gave friendly yet desperate smiles, waved like crazy, yelled across the heavy rain, asking if they’re coming back towards where we’re heading.

But, they gestured how they still had a looonggg way to go, unsure of when they could come back for us. Plus, the flood water was too high and trucks couldn’t stop to pick us up, just in case the engine stopped.

You know what?

Despite all that, we still saw amazing things along the way.

We saw people offering us help!

Yes, amidst their own inconvenient situations, they offered us help!

When we walked past strong currents, two people offered to hold the two older kids’ hands so they didn’t fall.

A middle aged man, drenched, going towards the same direction as us, offered to accompany Vai and walk along his side!

God-sent help, if you ask me.

 

 

After some 1.5 hours, we found a trolley!

Yay!

Weird, I know. But we’re happy to see a trolley!

And into the trolley Brie went. To rest my arms for a while.

 

 

Apparently, it took us a good 2 hours to reach home.

But frankly, none of us felt the two-hour walk.

Perhaps it’s because we concentrated more on how to keep moving forward together. To keep on walking and finding a safer ground to tread.

To keep ourselves balanced so we didn’t slip and fall into the brown water!

Ah anyway … it was SO nice to reach our home!

To have a good warm shower, and to clean ourselves from the murky water.

Btw, when we walked through the floods earlier, Vai once yelled out, ‘Mommy!! I think that’s a dead mouse floating away!!’

Hah! I seriously did NOT want to know if it was real, or it was his mere imagination!

I just told the kids to NOT think about what’s inside and underneath the brown water. Just focus and keep on walking, it’s better that way!

And hey hey hey, we survived! Woohoo! =)

 

 

You know … I feel, we (especially the kids!) learned so much from what we went through.

The kids experienced for themselves the kinds of help offered by strangers (who were ALSO in difficult situations), and I hope they in turn learn the importance of helping others too.

The kids also learned how important it is to work as a team, to look out for each other! (Read: bickering and silly disagreements should be the last things in their mind!)

 

 

They experienced how it IS possible to get through the storm and the flood together, if they just kept on walking past the deep flood and strong currents.

And, most importantly, they experienced how God sent unexpected help along the way, to help us get home. Safe and sound.

And before they went to bed, they prayed for others who are in more difficult situations, who lose their possessions, their homes, their cars, because of the flood. This time round, their prayers felt more real, more relevant, I’m sure.

Yes, it was not a pleasant experience.

But really, there were just SO many precious life lessons learned from it.

Thank God.

We learn to count our blessings.

And we know there are just too many of them.

Looking at ‘old photos’ taken TODAY

2013 September 17
by oureverydaythings

 

I was checking our old photos and I found this.

A shot of our cheeky little Vai who was just 3 years old.

Can’t help but feel, ‘Awwwww …’

I MISS those days when he’s so little.

I miss his chubby cheeks. His cuteness. His cheekiness.

Can’t believe that FOUR YEARS have gone by since that shot was taken!

At the same time, I thought to myself :

you know what, four years from today, when Vai is eleven years old, … I’d look at a photo of him taken TODAY, and I’d most likely feel the same way!

I’d miss the days when he’s still seven. 

The days when he’s still little, silly and cute.

And as difficult as I feel Vai has been these past few weeks, I’m sure four years from today, these ‘challenging days’ won’t matter much anymore!

Because, most probably, four years from today, I’ll be faced with new challenges that are tougher and more complicated?

I don’t know.

Whatever it is, I’m reminded to TREASURE my days with my kids TODAY.

To not be OVERLY bothered about daily challenging moments (by thinking, they are kids. They’ll of course be irritatingly childish at times).

To learn to be more cool-headed when handling our parenting challenges (by keeping in mind that everything will soon pass).

Because, time will keep on ticking away.

Because, our kids WILL GROW UP.

And before I know it, they’ll ALL be young adults, living their own lives away from us.

And by then, I’ll be sitting in front of the computer, looking at ‘old photos’, photos which probably are taken in the year 2013, and miss the moments spent with the children ‘while they’re still little’.

Sigh.

Now excuse me.

I’m going over to the kids’ bedroom to give them a big cuddle.

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