Talking is something that is unique to human and we spend a lot of time doing it each day. It is the cause of many problems, but solves many others at the same time.
If we do not talk, the consequences from communication breakdowns can be equally dire – offices would not be able to function; transportation systems will fail; among other doomsday scenarios.
At the personal level, failure to talk may result in unnecessary mental stress, built from locked up frustrations and emotions over a long period.
I never had trouble opening up and I am grateful I have a few trusted friends whom I can confide in when I need to. Not all men are so forthcoming though. Many of us have inflated macho ego which we cannot let go, even when we really should be crying for help.
Recently, a friend of mine committed adultery in a moment of weakness. He was not happy. He felt guilty towards his wife and he knew there is no future in the relationship. The affair was affecting his work, family life and mental wellbeing. He could not bring himself to talk about it to anyone, but finally confided in me when I pointed out some obvious changes in his behavior (eg. sneaky and heavy use of his mobile phone when he hardly even text anyone previously; snappy and easily irritable attitude towards his wife).
I am glad I caught it early.
My friend told me he even contemplated suicide. SUICIDE.
Goodness, over something like this?
He has a wife who love him very much, a happy family and a good career. Suicide?
My friend and I had a few long chats after that. I try not to interfere too much into his life. Regardless if he choose to divorce his wife or break off the affair, it was his life, his choice.
I did advise him to break off the affair and try to rekindle the love with his wife when they first married. I do not know if he did what I told him, but when I last met him, he looks happier.
I think all he needed was an outlet to release all his pent up frustrations and stress.
The incident may seem trivia to outsiders, but to my friend, he viewed it as a matter of life-and-death.
Which brings me to the topic of death and life-threatening illnesses like AIDS and cancers – if people find it difficult to talk about adultery, these topics will be even harder to bring up.
As open as I am, I have difficulty visualising myself breaking something like that to my family and loved ones, especially when I know I am the key breadwinner and anchor support in the household. Would they feel betrayed? Would I be deemed as a burden?
Here’s an interesting flash mob video I came across, on the important topic of Cancer:
Having good emotional support from friends and family helps!
After watching this video, what are your thoughts?
I got a NESCAFÉ® Dolce Gusto® Melody Automatic in my home a few months back. Other than gourmet coffee, the machine can also brewed a variety of 15 assorted beverages like lemon tea and peach tea.
It is also able to dispense drinks that are hot or cold!
The machine has integrated into my family life and routine. My two year son loves it the most.
Even though Asher is too young to drink tea or coffee, he loves to see the Dolce Gusto Melody Automatic at work. I taught him how to operate it and it has become his hobby to make coffee and tea for everyone who visit our house.
See how easy it works:
Every time someone visits, he will approach the guest and ask “你要喝茶吗 (Do you want tea)?”
Asher picking out which tea or coffee to serve to our guests
Every morning when I wake up, he will ask me: “ 爸爸，你要喝咖啡吗 (Dad, do you want coffee)？”
Preparing iced peach tea for me
In the afternoon or in the evening, he will ask me if I want tea.
A two-year-old can operate the Dolce Gusto Melody Automatic
Sometime, I will be “pressurized” by Asher to drink up to three cups of gourmet beverages a day!
Asher watching the machine
I like the simplicity of the Nescafe Dolce Gusto Melody Automatic. It is so easy to use that even a two year old boy can operate it (disclaimer: it doesn’t say so on the manual. Asher makes beverages with the machine under our supervision to ensure he do not get scalded or upset the machine).
Tada! The drink is ready!
Love the froth
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On a hot day, I appreciate a frothy glass of iced peach tea or iced cappuccino:
On rainy days when I want to snuggle in at home with a hot cup of latte macchiato or mocha:
On mornings when I need to perk up, a shot of espresso will do the job.
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Everything But The Brain tells the story of Elaine, a Physics teacher who hatches a plan to turn back time and save her stroke-afflicted father from further deterioration. Along the way, she is egged on by a chorus of three bears, occasionally distracted by a dashing young surgeon and haunted by a particularly memorable train ride to Malacca.
The play first premiered in 2005 to critical acclaim. After two sold-out runs, it went on to win two awards at the 2006 Life! Theatre Awards including “Best Original Script” and “Best Actor” (Gerald Chew).
Recently, Everything But The Brain has been chosen to be an O Level Literature text.
Stroke affects one in every 6 persons in their lifetime. Each of us will know of someone or will ourselves be affected by stroke. Every stroke survivor has a different story. This play chronicles the journey of a stroke patient and his caregiver. When I first read the script for the play, I was taken aback how true to life the story is.” Said Deidre De Silva, President, Singapore National Stroke Association.
Like the topic of death, stroke is not a topic which most of us would like to talk about. This play is a good initiative to raise awareness.
I did not watch the play in 2005 and this is the first time I am seeing Everything But The Brain and being exposed to Jean Tay’s witty and poignant writing.
I like how time travel and physics is weaved into the play, adding depth and dimensions to the theme of stroke and dementia.
The three bears seem awkward at first, but they are important plot devices to bring out the complex relationship between Elaine and her father. Without them, the play would have been stripped to a string of dialogues between two persons.
If you are interested to win a pair of tickets to Everything But The Brain on 18 August (Sun), 8pm at DBS Arts Centre (worth S$110), simply like my Facebook page and Sight Line Entertainment Facebook page. After that, drop me an email by 15 August (Thurs) noon at firstname.lastname@example.org with your name, contact number and NRIC/ passport number. I will select the winner by random draw on the same day and notify you by evening via email.